The real deal of FOMO


FOMO is described as the fear of missing out, the worried, pitted feeling in your stomach that you are missing out on exciting events that others are going to, and it is especially caused on social media. The term (FOMO) was first introduced in 2004 and then used intensely since 2011. FOMO has been reported to be in approximately 75% of young adults. There is a social aspect that has been attached to the term FOMO; it refers to the need for belonging and the formation of strong and stable relationships. It has gained a reputation for having a problematic attachment to social media and a range of negative life experiences. It can have feelings like lack of sleep, reduced life competency, emotional tension, effects on physical well-being, anxiety, and lack of emotional control.

Some studies have shown that FOMO might actually have a positive impact on social connections through social media intensity and attachment. It has been said that to drive our use of social media to connect with people socially, and being socially connected leads to happier people. Along with all the negatives that people can feel with FOMO, there is a positive and that’s becoming more social.

My experience with FOMO is always feeling like I was the second choice, with not being invited to things and always seeing what I used to call “friends” post without me, and it made me feel like I wasn’t good enough. I wanted to figure out how to be liked more and why I was the one having to feel like this. There was a time that I had enough and gravitated towards people who cared about me and loved me for me. That’s how I found the friends I have now.
Some of my current friends have experienced FOMO too: here’s what they have said.

By being able to have friends that are always including and never leaving anyone out, it has made me personally happier. I have been able to express myself and feelings to the fullest extent which has made my connections to my friends more meaningful. Instead of having surface level friends, I have made friends in the core of my heart and it has been the best time in my life. The memories that have been made will always be cherished and even though the past was rough, my friends have helped me move past my insecurities and feelings of FOMO.
