Netflix’s “Love is Blind” foils today’s dating culture


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The Netflix series “Love is Blind” acts as a contrast to swiping right or left on Tinder and other dating apps.

Love is Blind is a Netflix original reality series where strangers go on a series of speed dates while separated by walls. It is meant to act in opposition to today’s dating culture of swiping left or right based solely on appearance. 

15 women and 15 men of different ethnicities and backgrounds meet in “pods” and are forced to get to know each other without seeing each other. The successful couples make it to engagement before even seeing each other face to face. It is essentially an experiment to see if love really is blind. 

After the engagements, the couples have four weeks to spend time together face-to-face and meet each other’s families. Then, it is time for the weddings, all included in the series. The twist is that not everyone will say I do on their wedding day. 

Participating in this series can seem like a foolish way to fall in love. Like ABC’s The Bachelor, the series has gotten a lot of backlash from the media. It is argued that these alternative approaches to finding love are not the “right ways” to create meaningful, long-term relationships. However, there has been success for several Love is Blind contestants after season 1. 

Three couples that resulted from the series are still together as of March 5, 2020. It was revealed in a reunion special from early March that two pairs are still married. One pair is dating, after breaking up for a short time. Another two people who matched on the show are still good friends with each other. 

It is strange to think that one can fall in love without eye contact or even the touch of hands, but the few couples still together after a couple of years have proven this is a valid way to find love. There is science to back up the success stories. 

According to an article from Psychology Today in 2017, “a necessity is something that is initially extremely desirable…but as more of it is acquired, it diminishes in value.” It argues that physical attraction is a necessity in people’s eyes. While searching for relationships, people gravitate towards attractive individuals, because attractiveness is desirable. 

Furthermore, it takes less time and effort to judge another person based on their appearance than by getting to know them. However, the value of their appearance will diminish in time. The value of their personality will not.

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The contestants in the series have a chance to test their compatibility without the distraction of looks.

An article by certified life coach Michelle Fraley in 2019 explains that the key factor to falling in love is compatibility. It has less to do with physical attraction and more to do with how the two people relate to each other. 

Humans want to connect with others who understand them and bring out the best in them. It is more likely for people to fall in love when they are falling in love with themselves in the process. Success in a relationship, from the initial stages to marriage, comes from enjoying the other person’s company and feeling valued by them. 

The age gap exceeded ten years for some of the couples in season one. There could be more success in future seasons with a smaller age gap. Conflictingly, the differences between the contestants are what makes Love is Blind unique. The show has been renewed for two additional seasons, so viewers will just have to wait and see what Netflix has in store for them.